Men’s Intimacy
Coaching
Private online coaching for men —
offered worldwide.
You’ve lived a full life. You’re thoughtful, emotionally intelligent, and decent. You care about how you affect others. You’ve likely spent years trying to be a good partner, a good father, a good man.
And yet, since your partnership broke up, it feels like part of you has died.
You may be dating again — or thinking about it — and feeling exposed, unsure, or oddly invisible. You might sense that women don’t respond to you with desire. Or worse, that they sense something in you that feels hesitant, apologetic, or diminished.
This isn’t something you say out loud, but your body knows it.
It shows up as collapse rather than presence, as overthinking instead of confidence. As holding back desire and truth. As shrinking when you long to be met.
And underneath all of it is a deeper question:
“How did I end up feeling so broken and undesirable — and where did the confident me go?”
This is the moment most men arrive at my work — not because they are broken, but because the identity that carried them through marriage and midlife doesn’t work anymore…and did it ever?
No one ever taught you what to do about that.
Begin your journey
What’s really going on
Most of the men I work with are not lacking empathy, emotional intelligence, or care. In fact, those qualities are often deeply developed.
What’s missing is embodied masculine presence — the grounded authority that lives in the body, not in ideas about masculinity or attempts to get it right.
Over time, many men like you learned to:
prioritise harmony over truth
soften desire so it wouldn’t disrupt the relationship
shut down any ‘negative’ emotions – anger, frustration, grief, powerlessness, uncertainty
cope with a lot of criticism and blame
confuse decency with attraction
Your steadiness may have been taken for granted, your goodness may have gone unseen, your kindness may have cost you polarity.
Long before the separation happened externally, something had already collapsed internally.
What you’re experiencing now is not a failure of character.
It’s a masculine identity rupture — and it can be rebuilt through embodiment, not dominance or performance.
This work is about desire
Many men feel ashamed to admit this, especially at this stage of life:
You want to be desired. You want someone to crave your touch. You want emotional and physical intimacy that feels alive, mutual, and real.
You may tell yourself you should be past this — that wanting intimacy makes you needy or foolish. But desire doesn’t disappear with age. It simply goes underground when it’s shamed or silenced.
When desire is hidden or apologised for, the body collapses or you become hard. Polarity disappears. Attraction fades.
This work is about restoring clean, grounded desire — desire that is embodied, self-respecting, and felt by others without being forced or performed.
Not through trying harder, not through techniques, but through coming back into your body. Recognising and owning your own experience as valid and true.
How I work with you
I work one-to-one with men in their fifties and sixties who have recently separated/divorced and feel at sea with women, intimacy, and their sense of masculine authority.
This is not therapy. And it’s not about becoming ‘more alpha’.
This is intimacy coaching.
Masculinity and femininity are not fixed roles. Both men and women are responsible for their needs, longings, and boundaries. What creates attraction is presence — not niceness, not empty dominance, not performance.
I offer a private, non-judgemental space where you can come out of collapse or feeling disconnected and back into your body. I see who you are deeply and oh so compassionately — your goodness, grief, confusion, anger, and longing — and men tell me they feel fully seen here in a way they haven’t elsewhere.
All coaching is delivered online. You’ll need a quiet, private space where you won’t be interrupted, and a reliable internet connection. This work depends on your full presence.
The magic happens through practices, conversation, and also somatically — through the body — because presence and masculinity live in posture, nervous system regulation, and self-awareness.
Together, we will focus on:
Embodied masculine presence
Coming out of collapse or disconnected energy into grounded, settled presence — learning how to feel yourself again in your body.
Polarity without dominance
Leading emotionally and energetically without overpowering, pleasing, or disappearing — so connection becomes mutual rather than effortful.
Desire without shame
Learning to hold and express desire cleanly, without shrinking, apologising, or overreaching.
Relating after separation
Working through bitterness, grief, insecurity and confusion so they no longer leak into connection or intimacy.
Each session is 60 minutes, with reflective practices and email support.
Who this is for — and who it isn’t
This work is for you if:
You are in your fifties or sixties (give or take!) and recently separated or divorced
You are emotionally intelligent but feel erotically unsure
You feel shame around wanting intimacy and desire
You want grounded masculine presence, not performance
This work is not for you if:
You want to manipulate or blame
You believe women are the problem
You’re looking for quick fixes or scripts
Frequently Asked Questions
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Intimacy coaching supports emotional connection, communication, boundaries and embodied awareness. This work is somatic and experiential, meaning we focus on how intimacy lives in your body and nervous system — not just in your thoughts.
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Yes. Many people find online intimacy coaching just as effective — and often more so — than in-person sessions. Being in your own space can reduce self-consciousness and help you access deeper honesty, sensation and emotional awareness.
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No. This is not psychotherapy or clinical treatment. It’s practical, body-based coaching for men who want more depth, connection and aliveness in their intimate lives.
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No. You don’t need to be in a relationship, sexually confident, or emotionally articulate. Clients often come feeling disconnected, uncertain, or stuck — this is exactly who the work is designed to support.
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No. Sessions are professional, conversational and embodied. There is no sexual contact, nudity, or explicit sexual activity. We speak honestly about intimacy, desire and boundaries in a grounded, respectful way.
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Yes. Online sessions are fully confidential and held one-to-one in a secure setting. Many clients value the discretion and privacy of working from home.
What my clients say
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"I feel a new inner ground has grown in me. These ten weeks of coaching have given me new confidence."
— LB
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“I love our sessions. They give me so much insight, clarity, and perspective.”
— IM
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“I can describe coaching with Maria as an unforgettable experience. She is extremely empathetic and supportive. My shift to a more positive relationship with myself would not have been possible without her.”
— Greg
Final words
You are not too old. You are not broken. And you are not wrong for wanting to be desired.
You are standing at a threshold many men reach quietly after separation. You don’t need to become someone else.
You need to come back into your body, your truth, and your masculine centre.
If you’re ready to stop drifting and start inhabiting yourself again — through private, focused online coaching — I’m here.
Begin your embodied journey…